You’re not supposed to get into arguments with your clients. On a cold, crisp day in Denver just before Christmas last year, I did just that. Now if you know anything about therapy, a therapist’s job is to help a client skillfully identify patterns of behavior, explore their emotions, understand where issues came from and…
Category: Wisdom
The Buddhist Celebrates Lent
Growing up, I was the kid who asked too many questions, challenged outdated notions, thought the restrictions for women were uncool, and generally chafed at the institution of religion.
Making Connections Through Sharing Simple Joys
If you believe the story my Mom tells, I could swim before I could walk. Evidently I was in baby swim lessons by the time I was something like 3 months old. Then I grew up near the water much of my life. So it surprised everyone, even me, when I moved to Colorado a…
45 Ideas to Help Soothe, Inspire & Ponder
I turned 45 this year. In honor of this big birthday, here are 45 ideas, thoughts, musings that I’ve gained over the years. In my lifelong quest for learning, I am always on the lookout for data that will help make me a better person, or (hopefully) contribute to making the world a better place.…
How To Stop Over-Analyzing Him
Finding yourself making comparisons? Are you spending time micro-managing your boyfriend? Do you find yourself breaking down every. single. thing. he. says? I would guess that these behaviors are making you feel upset and leaving you confused and anxious. The problem with over-analyzing anyone, especially your partner, is that it is a self-producing cycle. The more your doubt,…
The Tyranny Of Being Right
As I was thinking about the topic for my blog for April, I kept coming back to the notion of spring cleaning, and how we can “spring clean” not just our houses, cars or desks, but our minds. It is time to take out the trash, so to speak, inside our own heads. What are…
The myths of confidence (and a link to my friend David’s program to build your social confidence)
Over the weekend, I took a beginner’s dance workshop. Now for many people, dancing is something they have done naturally since they were kids, and feel totally free and awesome doing. Growing up down South, there is a heavy social expectation that both men and women will have basic proficiency with dancing. I even have…
When Self-Love is Disguised as Self-Shaming
On Valentine’s Day this year I noticed a shift in the messages in the media. Instead of messages pressuring us to buy the perfect gift, organize the perfect date and buy our significant other flowers and chocolate, the blogs and media outlets I follow were full of messages about self-love. But the brand of self-love…
Tips to sleep better during the holidays
Sleep. One of our most basic activities today but one that often gets neglected at times of high activity like the holiday season. Getting an adequate amount of sleep can help insure you have the energy you need (and want!) to maintain a busy social calendar or simple cope with family and travel stress that…
The secret to being happy, healthy and successful (hint: it’s not a quick fix)
Admit it. Articles with this type of headline make you want to click. What’s the big secret? We’re always looking for a quick way to be happier, healthier, skinnier, richer, smarter… and the list goes on and on. Well I am sorry to mislead you here, but the truth is that there is no quick…