There are lots of ways to take good care of yourself, and many ways to set yourself up, either for success or failure, in your life. I suggest, strongly, that you identify and choose several simple, daily habits likely to move you toward your ideal life. I’m talking here about the small stuff, like flossing,…
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Realistic Life Balance
The other day, a client asked me to explain, “how do you get to it all?” She wanted a concrete explanation of how to actually field the various roles and responsibilities life throws our way, while also maintaining some semblance of health, without a sense of constant overwhelm. She was talking about how to manage…
The Upgraded 4 Burner Theory
A while back I read an excellent article by master blogger James Clear on what he called the 4-burner theory. Despite loving the overall concept, I rejected the idea of only having 4 burners. Partially I rejected the number 4 because I prefer odd numbers to even, partially because I just couldn’t quite get around…
Making Connections Through Sharing Simple Joys
If you believe the story my Mom tells, I could swim before I could walk. Evidently I was in baby swim lessons by the time I was something like 3 months old. Then I grew up near the water much of my life. So it surprised everyone, even me, when I moved to Colorado a…
Get Off The Raging River
Interpersonal anger can seem a lot like a wild, whitewater river, rushing us along swiftly until we crash into the rocks. It feels like one step leads inevitably to another, without options or choice. If you’ve had that experience with rage, you might want to slow your actions down and see that there are actually…
45 Ideas to Help Soothe, Inspire & Ponder
I turned 45 this year. In honor of this big birthday, here are 45 ideas, thoughts, musings that I’ve gained over the years. In my lifelong quest for learning, I am always on the lookout for data that will help make me a better person, or (hopefully) contribute to making the world a better place.…
The power of getting to one task at a time: Using the “Understand, Apply and Shift” model of problem solving.
This week I realized that things were feeling a little out of control. I took stock and realized that I have been slipping into the great American pastime of multitasking. What this looks like for me is books piled on my nightstand (literally, I’m in the middle of 6 books right now), multiple projects that…
25 Ways To Improve Your Horrible, Terrible, No Good, Very, Very Bad Day
Did you read that same book I did as kid about Alexander and his lousy day? All sorts of crummy things happened to him one day, and the book basically takes you through him having a rotten day and making it ok to occasionally feel awful, while also gently encouraging you to feel better. As…
3 Ways To Combat The Mystery Of Dating
Ever have one of those weeks where your conversations take on a theme? And, suddenly, everywhere you go you are talking about, being approached about, seeing on TV, and reading about the same issue? This happened to me recently. You see, I am back in the dating world in my mid 40’s. My 18 year…
The myths of confidence (and a link to my friend David’s program to build your social confidence)
Over the weekend, I took a beginner’s dance workshop. Now for many people, dancing is something they have done naturally since they were kids, and feel totally free and awesome doing. Growing up down South, there is a heavy social expectation that both men and women will have basic proficiency with dancing. I even have…