In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I thought it might be special to discuss a paradoxical element of my work: when I start to work with a new client, my first questions are about their physical health and functioning. I want to know how their diet and nutrition is, how often and what they…
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8 Tips To Improve Your Relationship, Courtesy Of International Relations
Article by Andrea Jones Rooy (Reposted from FiveThirtyEight) A big part of the science of international relations is the study of the causes of war. But it’s also about how nations can cooperate — like signing treaties, providing aid and generally promising not to kill each others’ citizens. It considers humans on the grandest, most…
Choice Architecture
I’ve been setting myself up lately. Setting myself up for success that is. How? By applying the basics of a concept called choice architecture…to myself and my own habits. Wikipedia defines Choice Architecture as the “design of different ways in which choices can be presented to consumers,” manipulating the number of choices available, the location…
Why Everyone Should Lift Weights
(Reposted from James Clear) I’ll say it plain and simple: you should be lifting weights. But not necessarily for the reasons that you might think. For example, I don’t believe that strength is the main benefit of weightlifting. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love being strong as much as the next person, but there is…
Realistic Life Balance
The other day, a client asked me to explain, “how do you get to it all?” She wanted a concrete explanation of how to actually field the various roles and responsibilities life throws our way, while also maintaining some semblance of health, without a sense of constant overwhelm. She was talking about how to manage…
The Emotional Cost of Change in Relationships
Making changes around in your life? I bet you have calculated the cost of these changes, and probably even figured out who will oversee the change. Maybe you even figured out a time estimate of how much of your schedule will be devoted to implementing the change. However, what I am betting is that what…
The Upgraded 4 Burner Theory
A while back I read an excellent article by master blogger James Clear on what he called the 4-burner theory. Despite loving the overall concept, I rejected the idea of only having 4 burners. Partially I rejected the number 4 because I prefer odd numbers to even, partially because I just couldn’t quite get around…
Making Connections Through Sharing Simple Joys
If you believe the story my Mom tells, I could swim before I could walk. Evidently I was in baby swim lessons by the time I was something like 3 months old. Then I grew up near the water much of my life. So it surprised everyone, even me, when I moved to Colorado a…
Get Off The Raging River
Interpersonal anger can seem a lot like a wild, whitewater river, rushing us along swiftly until we crash into the rocks. It feels like one step leads inevitably to another, without options or choice. If you’ve had that experience with rage, you might want to slow your actions down and see that there are actually…
45 Ideas to Help Soothe, Inspire & Ponder
I turned 45 this year. In honor of this big birthday, here are 45 ideas, thoughts, musings that I’ve gained over the years. In my lifelong quest for learning, I am always on the lookout for data that will help make me a better person, or (hopefully) contribute to making the world a better place.…