Quick, what do you think is one of the most primary purposes of long-term romantic relationships? Creating a family? Protecting financial interests? Being in love? While each of these is a possibility (although if you’re only in relationship to protect finances, I’d argue you’re missing out), there is a foundational principle to a long-term romantic…
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Running on Green
Years ago, I wrote a blog by this same title, and I came across my original post as I was cleaning out old files recently. How fun to see one of my original posts! How relevant the topic remains, hence my rewrite today on the same topic. I had the pleasure of meeting famed…
Success Basics
There are lots of ways to take good care of yourself, and many ways to set yourself up, either for success or failure, in your life. I suggest, strongly, that you identify and choose several simple, daily habits likely to move you toward your ideal life. I’m talking here about the small stuff, like flossing,…
Cracks in the Functioning
I’ve been making mistakes lately—fortunately nothing major, but mistakes nonetheless. I managed to forget to text a client back to confirm their appointment. I told a colleague of mine to meet on Wednesday, when I meant all along for us to get together on Thursday. I left something in the fridge at my house that…
The Building Blocks Of Mental Health Are Surprisingly Physical
In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I thought it might be special to discuss a paradoxical element of my work: when I start to work with a new client, my first questions are about their physical health and functioning. I want to know how their diet and nutrition is, how often and what they…
8 Tips To Improve Your Relationship, Courtesy Of International Relations
Article by Andrea Jones Rooy (Reposted from FiveThirtyEight) A big part of the science of international relations is the study of the causes of war. But it’s also about how nations can cooperate — like signing treaties, providing aid and generally promising not to kill each others’ citizens. It considers humans on the grandest, most…
Choice Architecture
I’ve been setting myself up lately. Setting myself up for success that is. How? By applying the basics of a concept called choice architecture…to myself and my own habits. Wikipedia defines Choice Architecture as the “design of different ways in which choices can be presented to consumers,” manipulating the number of choices available, the location…
Why Everyone Should Lift Weights
(Reposted from James Clear) I’ll say it plain and simple: you should be lifting weights. But not necessarily for the reasons that you might think. For example, I don’t believe that strength is the main benefit of weightlifting. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love being strong as much as the next person, but there is…
Realistic Life Balance
The other day, a client asked me to explain, “how do you get to it all?” She wanted a concrete explanation of how to actually field the various roles and responsibilities life throws our way, while also maintaining some semblance of health, without a sense of constant overwhelm. She was talking about how to manage…
The Emotional Cost of Change in Relationships
Making changes around in your life? I bet you have calculated the cost of these changes, and probably even figured out who will oversee the change. Maybe you even figured out a time estimate of how much of your schedule will be devoted to implementing the change. However, what I am betting is that what…