Business as Usual: practical ways to resist living in fear amid uncertainty of COVID-19. Getting hysterical has almost never effectively solved any problem. Ever. Really. Like never ever. Getting good information, listening to your gut, leaning on your values and making strategic moves towards the life you want, however, are great ways to solve problems, handle…
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Happy 18th Anniversary!
18 years ago I started my private practice. Having your own business is a little like being in a long-term relationship. There are ups and downs, things about it that drive you crazy, and, hopefully, lots to love. There are also considerable pros and cons. And, as with anything worth doing, things get hard sometimes.…
Avoidance Is At The Heart of Procrastination
I was talking this morning with a friend. I had called her to catch up (how WAS that party on Friday?! Were the costumes awesome?). It was funny, though, as we talked, we both realized that I had also partially called because I was avoiding getting to some work that I needed to do. How…
Be the Person Your Dog Thinks You Are
Yesterday was National Dog Day. Lots of people made a fuss about it and posted pictures of their favorite Fido or fluffy online. Debates were had about what breed of dog is the best. The consensus was: whatever the person’s favorite particular breed was, followed closely by pretty much any other dog breed. Just had…
Talk to Each Other Already!
I’ve been reading advice columns lately. Pretty nerdy thing to do, but I find them incredibly interesting. I love seeing the difference between therapy (what I do) and advice giving (which, as much as folks want me to, is not really what I’m supposed to offer). It’s fascinating what the variety of advice columnists will…
Stop Letting Impostor Syndrome Get In Your Head
If you are one of my clients, you probably have had the conversation with me about trying new things, and how confidence comes at the end of a learning curve. Often we find ourselves waiting until we feel motivated, confident or sure of ourselves before trying something new. Unfortunately, that isn’t how motivation, confidence or…
4 Tips to Access Your Best Self
Hi everyone! I’m still in list making mode, wanting to build on the concept of a personal checklist that was my blog for the beginning of the year. Why lists? Well, they are easy to make and easy to track. Most importantly, we get a dose of the feel-good neurotransmitter, dopamine, when we check something…
The Power of a Personal Checklist
It’s early in February, so I thought I’d check in: How are those resolutions working out? Not so well? Well, you’re probably not the only one who has given up. There are myriad reasons why resolutions don’t work so well. Typically, this is because most resolutions are based on ideas about what you feel you…
Let’s Make Merry This Holiday Season….But Not Too Much!
Happy holidays! Whatever you celebrate, I hope that your holiday season is joyful and filled with good friends, enjoyable family, yummy food and lovely events to attend. As I assist clients with navigating the often tricky business of family, holiday expectations and end of year work concerns, I often hear about an uptick in…
Primary Purpose in Long-Term Relationships
Quick, what do you think is one of the most primary purposes of long-term romantic relationships? Creating a family? Protecting financial interests? Being in love? While each of these is a possibility (although if you’re only in relationship to protect finances, I’d argue you’re missing out), there is a foundational principle to a long-term romantic…