One of the things I will share with just about anyone who will listen is this: the point of long-term relationships is to soothe each other in a difficult world. Now I’m not trying to be all doom and gloom here, but, really, have you looked around? The world gets tricky to navigate frequently. And,…
The Value of Ditching Positive Thinking
Recently, life has been trying. Like really trying. In my immediate circle we’ve had technology crashes, major work stress, minor work stress, parenting troubles, troubles with parents, and health concerns from a medical procedure that didn’t heal properly. All in the last month. I was going to talk about putting things in perspective, that we…
Formula for Life: X Factors Welcome
Yes, there is a formula for life success. Unfortunately, it isn’t what you think. Recently I had a meeting in beautiful Boulder, Colorado. My work meeting was going to let out at just the right time for me to go do one of my favorite hikes. I am rarely in Boulder so when I am…
You’re not supposed to get into arguments with your clients. On a cold, crisp day in Denver just before Christmas last year, I did just that. Now if you know anything about therapy, a therapist’s job is to help a client skillfully identify patterns of behavior, explore their emotions, understand where issues came from and…
The Joy of Middle Ground
Polarizing extremes seem to be all the rage these days. I was recently in an interesting conversation in my monthly meditation group (it’s a lovely little group, run by an old friend, link at the bottom if you want more info) about this exact issue. We were talking about how we seem to be regularly…
Happy Birthday! And Other Celebrations
I am extremely proud to announce that November 1, 2021 is the 20th anniversary of my private practice.
In Defense of the Ordinary
I have noticed that increasingly, as the pressure for everyone to be special and important and amazing mounts, the ability of people to just be good enough is getting swept away.
The Buddhist Celebrates Lent
Growing up, I was the kid who asked too many questions, challenged outdated notions, thought the restrictions for women were uncool, and generally chafed at the institution of religion.
Do you have a difficult family member? Me too! Let’s talk
Now is the time of year that my practice is inundated with questions about how to handle the holidays and that one difficult family member.
The Mighty Mammal Brain, How Silly It Can Be
How funny our brains are in action. We are so good at predicting the worst and bracing ourselves for trouble. Panic arrives before we even have any evidence of a problem.