How funny our brains are in action. We are so good at predicting the worst and bracing ourselves for trouble. Panic arrives before we even have any evidence of a problem.
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This fall, focus on small
Small actions, repeated over time, can make a surprisingly big difference, to ourselves, in our relationships and even in our larger world.
Psychological Flexibility for the Win!
Psychological flexibility is the art of acknowledging and accepting reality, and then determining what your next strategic move is in response to that reality.
Business as Usual
Business as Usual: practical ways to resist living in fear amid uncertainty of COVID-19. Getting hysterical has almost never effectively solved any problem. Ever. Really. Like never ever. Getting good information, listening to your gut, leaning on your values and making strategic moves towards the life you want, however, are great ways to solve problems, handle…
Happy 18th Anniversary!
18 years ago I started my private practice. Having your own business is a little like being in a long-term relationship. There are ups and downs, things about it that drive you crazy, and, hopefully, lots to love. There are also considerable pros and cons. And, as with anything worth doing, things get hard sometimes.…
Avoidance Is At The Heart of Procrastination
I was talking this morning with a friend. I had called her to catch up (how WAS that party on Friday?! Were the costumes awesome?). It was funny, though, as we talked, we both realized that I had also partially called because I was avoiding getting to some work that I needed to do. How…
Be the Person Your Dog Thinks You Are
Yesterday was National Dog Day. Lots of people made a fuss about it and posted pictures of their favorite Fido or fluffy online. Debates were had about what breed of dog is the best. The consensus was: whatever the person’s favorite particular breed was, followed closely by pretty much any other dog breed. Just had…
Talk to Each Other Already!
I’ve been reading advice columns lately. Pretty nerdy thing to do, but I find them incredibly interesting. I love seeing the difference between therapy (what I do) and advice giving (which, as much as folks want me to, is not really what I’m supposed to offer). It’s fascinating what the variety of advice columnists will…
Stop Letting Impostor Syndrome Get In Your Head
If you are one of my clients, you probably have had the conversation with me about trying new things, and how confidence comes at the end of a learning curve. Often we find ourselves waiting until we feel motivated, confident or sure of ourselves before trying something new. Unfortunately, that isn’t how motivation, confidence or…
4 Tips to Access Your Best Self
Hi everyone! I’m still in list making mode, wanting to build on the concept of a personal checklist that was my blog for the beginning of the year. Why lists? Well, they are easy to make and easy to track. Most importantly, we get a dose of the feel-good neurotransmitter, dopamine, when we check something…