You’re not supposed to get into arguments with your clients. On a cold, crisp day in Denver just before Christmas last year, I did just that. Now if you know anything about therapy, a therapist’s job is to help a client skillfully identify patterns of behavior, explore their emotions, understand where issues came from and…
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The Joy of Middle Ground

Polarizing extremes seem to be all the rage these days. I was recently in an interesting conversation in my monthly meditation group (it’s a lovely little group, run by an old friend, link at the bottom if you want more info) about this exact issue. We were talking about how we seem to be regularly…
Happy Birthday! And Other Celebrations

I am extremely proud to announce that November 1, 2021 is the 20th anniversary of my private practice.
In Defense of the Ordinary

I have noticed that increasingly, as the pressure for everyone to be special and important and amazing mounts, the ability of people to just be good enough is getting swept away.
The Buddhist Celebrates Lent

Growing up, I was the kid who asked too many questions, challenged outdated notions, thought the restrictions for women were uncool, and generally chafed at the institution of religion.
Do you have a difficult family member? Me too! Let’s talk

Now is the time of year that my practice is inundated with questions about how to handle the holidays and that one difficult family member.
The Mighty Mammal Brain, How Silly It Can Be

How funny our brains are in action. We are so good at predicting the worst and bracing ourselves for trouble. Panic arrives before we even have any evidence of a problem.
This fall, focus on small

Small actions, repeated over time, can make a surprisingly big difference, to ourselves, in our relationships and even in our larger world.
Psychological Flexibility for the Win!

Psychological flexibility is the art of acknowledging and accepting reality, and then determining what your next strategic move is in response to that reality.
Business as Usual

Business as Usual: practical ways to resist living in fear amid uncertainty of COVID-19. Getting hysterical has almost never effectively solved any problem. Ever. Really. Like never ever. Getting good information, listening to your gut, leaning on your values and making strategic moves towards the life you want, however, are great ways to solve problems, handle…