Articles about Relationships

The Emotional Cost of Change in Relationships

July 28th, 2017 / No Comments »

Making changes around in your life?  I bet you have calculated the cost of these changes, and probably even figured out who will oversee the change.  Maybe you even figured out a time estimate of how much of your schedule will be devoted to implementing the change.  However, what I am betting is that what [...]


Stay Right When You’re Wronged

October 18th, 2016 / No Comments »

(Reposted from Rick Hanson, PhD. on August 14, 2016) What happens after you’re mistreated? The Practice: Stay right when you’re wronged. Why? It’s easy to treat people well when they treat you well. The real test is when they treat you badly. Think of times you’ve been truly wronged, in small ways or big ones. [...]


Get Off The Raging River

October 4th, 2016 / No Comments »

Interpersonal anger can seem a lot like a wild, whitewater river, rushing us along swiftly until we crash into the rocks. It feels like one step leads inevitably to another, without options or choice. If you’ve had that experience with rage, you might want to slow your actions down and see that there are actually [...]


45 Ideas to Help Soothe, Inspire & Ponder

July 26th, 2016 / No Comments »

I turned 45 this year.  In honor of this big birthday, here are 45 ideas, thoughts, musings that I’ve gained over the years. In my lifelong quest for learning, I am always on the lookout for data that will help make me a better person, or (hopefully) contribute to making the world a better place. [...]


Why Aren’t You…Me?

February 9th, 2016 / No Comments »

In collecting information about the various and sundry complaints people bring to me about their relationships, the themes and issues vary widely. I have heard everything from small issues (why are things thrown next to the laundry hamper instead of in it?) to irritations that grow over time (I’m a night owl, why does she [...]